Getting divorced when there are children involved
Children will obviously have lots of questions during a divorce process. At Vixx, we don’t only talk to the parents about their future plans but we also meet with the children and will ask them how they feel and what their preferences are. The children can speak freely during this meeting, they don’t have to take their parents’ feelings and emotions into account. We offer this meeting free of charge.
The meeting with the children is confidential, and everything is open for discussion. The children decide what we will and will not discuss with their parents. You, as parents, decide how to shape any agreements made between you two. We will take your personal circumstances into account. It is important for the children that the commitments made are being honoured in the long run, this will give them peace and quiet.
When to write a parenting plan
Are you getting divorced and are the children younger than 18 years old? You are then obliged to write a parenting plan. A parenting plan is used to put in writing all agreements made with regards to the children. It is also sensible to do this when the children are older than 18. They often still live at home, and you can’t just let them deal with any issues on their own.
What is included in a parenting plan?
You can either write a parenting plan yourself, or get a mediator involved. You should be able to fill in most of it yourself. Are there any aspects you are not sure of or would you like to have looked at by an expert? A divorce coach from Vixx will help you cross the t’s and dot the i’s.
The following aspects are always included in a parenting plan:
- Who do the children stay with, and when
- Birthdays, holidays and parties
- Spending time with both sides of the family
- Daily care and upbringing
- Sharing costs
